Ending a marriage is not an easy process. Not only can it be emotionally draining, but divorce can also cause physical and financial stress. Thankfully, you can reduce the stress of dissolving a marriage. With this guide, you will learn how to avoid common mistakes made during the divorce process.
Changing your Mind
Dissolving a marriage will be an emotional roller coaster. You may have some questions and even doubts during the process. These varying emotions can take their toll on your spouse, children, and friends, so you should make sure that you're content with your decision.
Trying to save your marriage before consulting with a divorce attorney is wise. Weigh out the pros and cons of ending the marriage in detail. Ask your spouse if they will consider marriage counseling, as well.
Invest time and energy into working on your relationship before investing time and money into ending the marriage. Once divorce papers are filed and served, it will be difficult to go back.
Talking Negatively About Spouse
Depending on the situation, you or your spouse may feel hurt or angry over the end of the marriage. These are normal feelings that may cause you to feel anger towards your future ex. In some instances, you may feel the need to speak negatively about your spouse in front of others. Getting your feelings out in the open may make you feel better for a short period of time, but speaking negatively about your spouse can actually do more harm than good.
Avoid speaking negatively about your spouse in front of your children especially, since this can cause permanent emotional damage. Also, do not make negative comments or posts about your spouse on social media. Social media can be used against you in a court of law.
Not Utilizing Mediation
If you and your spouse are not able to work through the divorce process peacefully, the time and money spent on finalizing the divorce can be rather high. Stress, attorney fees, and court costs will increase enormously each time you and your spouse are unable to come to an agreement. However, mediation can help this process.
During mediation, you and your spouse will be able to work through details of the divorce with the help of an experienced third-party mediator. Sorting through finances and custody agreements can all be accomplished in a more efficient, effective, and peaceful manner during mediation. This not only reduces stress and time spent in court, but it is also 40 to 60 percent less costly than divorce litigation.
Ending your marital partnership can be troubling, but it does not have to ruin your entire life. With the help of a professional and this guide, you can avoid a few common mistakes made during a divorce.